Think you understand depression? Guess again...

The passing of Robin Williams has brought new focus on the illness of depression in a way that no other event has in recent times. Perhaps it's because he seemed like one of the least likely candidates to be inflicted with this. Perhaps because he certainly seemed to have so much going for him. But, maybe that's exactly the point here... no one is immune. Rich, poor, extrovert, introvert, funny, serious, successful, failure... Robin's death has sent the message that depression does not discriminate.

I've read countless recaps online of what depression "is" and what it "isn't" - along with the guaranteed comments that always seems to follow from both supporters and detractors. So many have already determined, with unwavering certainty, what depression is all about - and how it can easily be "cured" or "overcome." I'm not going to pretend to understand how a cancer victim truly feels, or the struggles they face each day. So, why do so many who have never truly faced real depression in their own lives consider themselves experts in their own assessments of this disease.

I'm fortunate to admit that, although I've struggled against depression and social anxiety issues since childhood, I have never had true suicidal tendencies. But, that hasn't made my own battles any less real. That being said, as someone who's been there, sometimes still visits, and maintains a constant vigilance to keep my illness under control, here is my personal take on some of the recent statements and beliefs I have seen thrown around social media recently.

1. Robin Williams didn't die from a disease, he died from his choice.

In theory, it may seem like suicide is a choice - but that presumes the mind is clear and capable of rational thinking at the time that choice is made. Depression can be overwhelming, and often overpowers what seems to be rational thought among those who are not afflicted. Not justifying suicide, but I understand how it might seem the only answer to one in the throes of a depression low. The mind is powerful and illusions can easily overcome reality given the right circumstances.

2. Pills are not the answer, anti-depressant medications only lead to suicidal thoughts or make things worse, etc...

Actually, sometimes these medication can be lifesavers. Some do list suicidal tendencies as a potential side effect, yes. Not all medications work for every individual, yes. Sometimes the side effects may need to be weighed against the benefits, yes. And, many individuals need therapy in addition to the medications - or may be helped by therapy alone, yes. So, I agree that medication may not be the appropriate treatment for every individual who suffers. However, this doesn't mean it should be discounted for all. In my case, I can easily attribute the root to a chemical imbalance, and the right medication has proven to be a lifesaver! But, in finding the solution that would work, I suffered through many that did not. If only one medication worked for all, then there would not be so many options available out there.

If someone can overcome their illness without the assistance of a prescription, then I think that's wonderful! But, we're all different, just as the cause of depression for individuals may differ. So, please don't rule out or negate successful treatments just because you've read an article about the risks, or you and/or a friend did not find it to be beneficial in your own search for a solution.
 

3. God is the answer. If you have faith in God, he will help you overcome everything.

 
Sorry to rain on your parades, but while spirituality certainly can't hurt, statements like this greatly undermine the true medical conditions that can often be behind depression and other mental illnesses. Would you say this to someone with a thyroid disorder? Or diabetes? I doubt it... so, don't assume this is the answer for mental illness either.
 

4. They're just sad... It'll pass.

Nope. While the individual may indeed feel "sad", I'm pretty sure it's at a depth that most may never experience. It's so much more than simply being sad. While I can't speak for all, I can assure you that, for some, this comes with a general numbness to their surroundings... almost as if you've sunk so far, you can't feel any more. You lose interest in those things that may have made you happy in the past. Self-criticism is rampant, and can easily feed the flames. Energy is depleted - or just outright absent. This isn't about needing a good cry. It's so much deeper than that.


I could probably go on and on with this list. Consider it my pet peeves, I suppose. All I ask is that people start to look beyond their individual realities and understand that your life experiences may have cut off some realities from your world view. Be open to different perspectives and insights into experiences that you have not personally encountered. Be there for friends, family - but without judgment. Offer love and support, not answers.